Complicated relationship. This week theme challenge from BEC.
I blame on Facebook to make “complicated relationship” term only for relationships between men and women which have to go through any complication. As to me, I name every single relationship that I have with another human being as a complicated relationship.
It’s never easy to connect to other people to me and yet keep them happy or at least doesn’t feel any negative feeling. Not that I try to please everyone since I know I can’t.
Everytime I talk to other people, I have to assess how their feelings, what are likely going through their mind and how should I deliver a proper respond. I try my best not to be insensitive and use my emphaty. Well, most of the time I failed miserably. When things happen, I try to reach out and let them know how feel and think about the issue(s) so that we can move from there towards a constructive solution in a respecting way.
Doing all that, I foolishly expect people to do the same thing. Surprisingly I still expected too much from others. I got hurt if others treated me the other way. I got hurt when there were insensitive responses, self centered solution or sometimes when there was no response at all.
Getting through those kind of interpersonal relationships is a bit of a challenge to me. I realize that expecting people to have the same kind set of thinking just won’t work. People come from so many different backgrounds and it is impossible to expect them to act the way we want, right? So having that in mind, I started to stop expecting too much. Impossible to say that I can stop all at once.
On the other hand, trying to save my time and energy, I will just focus on a relationship that works. Save my time and energy, moreover I won’t get hurt.
Human relationship really is complicated, isn’t it?